Marriage

The sacrament of marriage is a visible sign of God’s love for the Church. When a man and a woman are married in the Church, they receive the grace needed for a lifelong bond of unity.

Marriage is a Covenant

The Sacrament of Marriage is a covenantal union in the image of the covenants between God and his people with Abraham and later with Moses at Mt. Sinai. This divine covenant can never be broken. In this way, marriage is a union that bonds spouses together during their entire lifetime.

The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life. (CCC 1661)

The love in a married relationship is exemplified in the total gift of one’s self to another. It’s this self-giving and self-sacrificing love that we see in our other model of marriage, the relationship between Christ and the Church.

Marriage is based on the consent of the contracting parties, that is, on their will to give themselves, each to the other, mutually and definitively, in order to live a covenant of faithful and fruitful love. (CCC 1662)

The Church takes the lifelong nature of the Sacrament of Marriage seriously. The Church teaches that a break in this covenant teaches goes against the natural law of God:

The remarriage of persons divorced from a living, lawful spouse contravenes the plan and law of God as taught by Christ. They are not separated from the Church, but they cannot receive Eucharistic communion. They will lead Christian lives especially by educating their children in the faith. (CCC 1665)

Marriage Reflects the Holy Trinity

We believe that God exists in eternal communion. Together, Father, Son and Holy Spirit are united in one being with no beginning and no end. Human beings, likewise, were created by God in God’s image for the purpose of communion with another human being.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church states, “The Christian family is a communion of persons, a sign and image of the communion of the Father and the Son in the Holy Spirit” (CCC 2205). The Sacrament of Marriage is “unitive, indissoluble and calls us to be completely open to fertility.” Christian marriage at its finest is a reflection of God’s self-giving love expressed between the love of two people.

 

 

Some general regulations from the Diocese of Oakland include:

-Preparation with the Parish must begin 6 months prior to the Wedding date.
-The minimum age requirement is 20 years.
-If previously married, No preparation can begin until a prior marriage has been annulled.
-The couple must participate in a marriage preparation program.
-The Priest or Deacon will complete the marriage questionnaire with the couple.
-The Priest or Deacon will complete a witness form with one person of each of the couple, usually a parent or family member.
-A copy of their Baptism, Holy Communion and Confirmation certificates, dated within the 6 months, are required, unless these sacraments were received in St. Jarlath.
-The couple must present a marriage license before the wedding date.

WEDDING CEREMONY REGULATIONS

-Because of safety, insurance and environment concerns, nothing may be thrown on the ground or upon the couple. (no flower petals, no rice, or confetti, etc.) No “runner” or other type of middle aisle carpet is allowed during the ceremony.

-Natural flowers arrangements may be placed in the Sanctuary. We would appreciate it, if two arrangements are left at the altar after the ceremony.
-If pew decorations are used, they can be fastened only with a rubber band, a pipe cleaner or appropriate plastic hook. Scotch tape may never be used to secure articles since the glue ruins the varnish of the woodwork. Decorations can not block the entrance to the pews.
-Only sacred or appropriate music may be played for the wedding. No artificial or recorded music is permitted in church.
-Both the time to begin the rehearsal and the time to begin the wedding are important. Please be sure to make adequate preparation to insure punctuality.
-In order to reserve the day, a non refundable payment of $350.00 must be made at that time, (50% of the total donation $700.00) and the other $350.00 is due at least one month prior to the wedding date.

Marriage

God created man and woman out of love and commanded them to imitate his love in their relations with each other. Man and woman were created for each other…Woman and man are equal in human dignity, and in marriage both are united in an unbreakable bond. (United States Catholic Catechism for Adults, Ch. 21, p. 279)